The principles of sabr (patience) and tawakkul (trust in Allah) are not merely coping mechanisms but are comprehensive approaches to enduring and overcoming adversity, deeply rooted in the Islamic worldview.
by ZEENAT PARKER
IN the heart of Cape Town a silent and insidious epidemic grips our homes and communities – the unprocessed trauma of bereavement.
Though its impact is profound and far-reaching, the topic of bereavement remains shrouded in silence. This reluctance to openly discuss grief often results in unprocessed emotions and hidden suffering, leaving many in our community to grapple with a heavy burden of trauma that manifests in ways frequently misunderstood and misdiagnosed.
When a loved one passes away, the immediate aftermath is filled with condolences and rituals, but what follows in the months after is often a profound loneliness. Some of those affected by this immense loss may begin to act differently, exhibiting behaviours that seem out of character. These changes can include withdrawal, sudden bursts of anger, or deep sadness. These are not merely phases of grief but symptoms of unprocessed trauma that, if left unaddressed, can spiral into more severe mental health issues.
In the Muslim community, there is often a perception that mental health and counselling support exist outside our religious framework. However, the Islamic tradition, deeply rooted in the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), provides profound guidance for navigating bereavement and trauma. The Prophet’s own experiences with loss and his compassionate counsel to others offer invaluable insights. Despite numerous institutions exploring these teachings over the years, the integration of faith-based counselling into mainstream Islamic discourse remains limited.
Faith-based counselling and Islamic psychology, in particular, offers a nuanced and profound framework for addressing mental health and by implication bereavement. The approach is deeply intertwined with spiritual well-being. The principles of sabr (patience) and tawakkul (trust in Allah) are not merely coping mechanisms but are comprehensive approaches to enduring and overcoming adversity, deeply rooted in the Islamic worldview.
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Sabr is often misunderstood as passive endurance, but within the Islamic tradition, it is an active and dynamic process. It involves a conscious effort to remain steadfast in the face of hardship, actively seeking help from Allah, and utilising all available resources to navigate ones challenges.
The Quranic verse, ‘And seek help through patience and prayer’ (Al-Baqarah, 2:45), emphasises that patience is coupled with proactive measures such as prayer (salaah) and seeking help. This verse underscores the idea that patience is not passive but involves a continuous effort to seek Allah’s help while taking tangible steps to address one’s circumstances.
Tawakkul, on the other hand, has a broader definition that is often misunderstood.. It embodies a balanced approach to life, where individuals take responsible actions to address their challenges while placing their trust in Allah’s wisdom and decree.
It is a dynamic interaction between human effort and divine reliance, as illustrated by the hadith, ‘Tie your camel and trust in Allah’ (Tirmidhi). This hadith highlights the importance of taking practical measures while simultaneously trusting in Allah’s plan. Tawakkul thus encourages believers to be proactive in their mental health journey, engaging in therapeutic practices and seeking professional help, while maintaining a deep trust in Allah’s overarching plan and wisdom.
Incorporating these principles into mental health support creates a holistic framework that addresses the spiritual, emotional, and physical dimensions of well-being. By grounding therapeutic practices in the rich tapestry of Islamic teachings, faith-based counselling provides a more resonant and effective approach for bereavement in the Muslim community.
Our experience in chaplaincy at Red Cross Children’s War Memorial Hospital has shown the transformative power of providing emotional and spiritual support to those in the throes of grief. Through our chaplaincy service, we have witnessed the profound impact of integrating faith-based guidance with compassionate care. Simply being present, offering a listening ear, and providing comfort through the principles of sabr and tawakkul has demonstrated the critical role of spiritual support in fostering resilience and healing during times of profound loss.
However, the need for such support extends far beyond hospital walls.
The establishment of the Warriors of Hope Wellness Centre and Helpline is a response to this pressing need. We aim to expand our chaplaincy services into the mainstream, making emotional and spiritual support accessible to all who need it. Our goal is to break the silence surrounding bereavement and provide a safe space for individuals to process their grief.
Bereavement is not merely a private affair; it is a societal issue that demands collective acknowledgment and support. The stigma associated with seeking mental health support in our community must be dismantled. Mental health is as crucial as physical health, yet it does not receive the same understanding or attention. Our initiative aims to bridge this gap by offering culturally sensitive support that respects and integrates Islamic principles, thereby empowering individuals to seek the help they need without fear of judgment.
As we launch the Warriors of Hope Wellness Centre and Helpline, we invite our community to join us in this pivotal moment. Let us turn the tide against unprocessed trauma, fostering resilience and hope in the face of loss.
- Zeenat Parker is Founder and Director of Warriors of Hope.
For more information about the Warriors of Hope Wellness Centre and Helpline, or to learn how you can support this initiative, please contact Zeenat Parker on 082 824 8797 or email: woh.cpt.za@gmail.com or visit the website: www.woh.co.za.
